yeh its all about what you want.. however people will still tell you you are an idiot if
a) they dont like your idea
b) you are in fact an idiot
if its a), the fuck them.. if i listened to everything some people said on here, i wouldnt have clear indicator lenses, i wouldnt have a hid lighting kit and i wouldnt have a dvd in the car.
things such as 'altezza' lights are always going to be frowned upon, 90% of antrx members will agree that it will look crap, but if you want to fork out the money for totally custom altezza's, and you will be happy with the result.. do it. its your car, your money. there is then the spoiler vs. no spoiler look. there are people on both sides of the fence.. who cares? certainly not me. as long as you like it, thats all that matters.
adam is always going to be about performance, owning a sleeper, all that stuff, but thats adam, and adam being who he is, he'll always tell you that neons are shit, but that doesnt mean he is sitting there saying 'no you cant have them' it just means that he wouldnt have them in his car.
ultimately, i think there is the issue as jecks mentioned with antrx owners not being able to afford to mod their cars. decent visual or performance mods cost money, antrx is 5 years old, when it started, the u12 was a little more pricey, antrx had older members that made more money to spend on their cars.. also in that 5 years, a lot of mods, performance and visual, have been performed and posted about by its members.. as time has gone on and the price of the u12 has dropped, antrx is getting mainly young kids in their first car working part time jobs and studying at the same time. some dont even have a half decent base to start from.